What? Forgive? No Apology FIRST?!

March 18, 2011

Seriously? You’re suggesting I forgive him even though he hasn’t as mush as LOOKED like he’s sorry, much less said it? These words ring in my head constantly as I can’t even count the number of people who’ve said them to me. YES!  Forgiving without the apology is my suggestion.  Here’s the thing, WHO IS [...]

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How to be available in relationships…every day

March 16, 2011

 Hello! Recently we’ve talking a lot about ‘availability.’ As laid out here, Dr. Therman Evans believes availability is a 3-fold concept; presence, reach-ability and usability. All three must be in place for you to consider yourself truly available. Any one missing and you are not available. So consider your primary relationships – at work, church [...]

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Getting worse to get better

March 11, 2011

                                                                                               Hello! Marianne Williamson say this:  “The process of personal growth {my insert: or forgiveness} isn’t always easy. We must face our own ugliness. We often must become painfully aware of the unworkability of a pattern before we’re willing to give it up. It often seems, in fact, that our lives get worse rather than better [...]

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How to Fast from Negativity

March 10, 2011

                                                                   Hello!  People always speak of fasting from food and special treats but seldom do you hear about fasting from a way of thinking or being. I’ve come to see that both require a serious amount of self-discipline and both bring blessings beyond measure. For Lent this year, I am fasting from negativity.  I explain [...]

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Forgive to Fight

March 4, 2011

Hello, On Facebook today I posted this ► Friday Forgiveness Tip: The big violations attached to events in our world – you know, those things we hardly know the truth about but are as real as the sunrise – they need to be released as well. Especially if you want to help right the wrongs. [...]

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The “Do it Now” Lesson

February 21, 2011

Hello, Life lessons are everywhere and in everything.  They’re in joyful experiences a well as – and perhaps even more so in painful ones. They’re in mistakes and triumphs; in games and in gardens.  Is it a stretch to say that life lessons are to us what water is to fish? That sounds about right [...]

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Why Being Kind is Hard

February 11, 2011

Hi there!   [Today is day 18 of our 21-day kindness adventure  - see previous messages here ] I think we all, at one time or another, really want to be kind. We want kindness and we do want to extend it to others as well. But what gets in the way? And even more, why [...]

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Forgive one person to love the world

February 8, 2011

Hello! It’s a funny thing forgiveness – you forgive one person and you get the power to love the world. Powerful stuff. You don’t even have to continue a love relationship with the person you forgave. It’s a myth that needs debunking – that to forgive means keeping a relationship going. Not true. You can [...]

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How to seek forgiveness

January 29, 2011

Friday Forgiveness Tip: If you’re seeking forgiveness have these: 1) true remorse 2) a sincere apology 3) changed behavior. Feel it, Speak it and Be it. So what does that really mean? So often, people say to me ever so casually, “I’m sorry” or even, “sorry”…without much thought behind the words. Often it’s said and [...]

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21-Day Kindness Adventure: Day 3 ~ FORGIVE Yourself!

January 27, 2011

[This 21-day series -- 21 Days of Action with Kindness is also a Facebook event. If you're on Facebook you are invited to join us... Today is Day 3. Here is a link to Day 1's message and suggestions ► http://bit.ly/eYZT8V ; Day 2 is here ► http://bit.ly/hG52EQ ] Hello! The past 2 days we’ve [...]

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